What is the Soul Mate Quiz?
Note: To understand the soul mate quiz, you'll need to have read the page "Define Soul Mate." If you haven't already, read that page first: Define Soul Mate You know now that we define a Soul Mate as someone with some or all the traits that make an ideal marriage partner. The Soul Mate Quiz will help you evaluate you and your partner's strengths on those traits. If both of you have all of these traits, you will truly be "soul mates." If you or your partner is not strong on one of these traits, we'll show you what you can do to practice that trait. If you both practice these traits, you will not only have a happy marriage that lasts, but you will become true Soul Mates. Be careful not to use this quiz to find out if you married the right person, or if you're engaged to an ideal marriage partner. Very few people will have all of these traits, and it's likely that you won't either. Instead, use the quiz as a guide to see how you and your partner might work to add traits that have proven powerful in making happy marriages that last. Use the small grid below to guess your score and your partner's (use a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is low and 10 is high). Then complete the detailed questions in the following pages. Last, compare those scores to your guesses. (There is another copy of this grid at the end of the article to record your actual answers.) If you are reading on-screen, print this article so that you can write your answers. If you don't have access to a printer, sketch the grids and use them for your answers. Before You Start: Guesses If it's convenient, print this page so that you can score the following questions with pen or pencil. If you don't have access to a printer, sketch a grid something like this and use it for your final scores for each question. | Question: | Mine | Partner's | Composite | | Soul Mate Quiz Question #1: Average Optimism Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | | Soul Mate Quiz Question #2: Average Positivity Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | | Soul Mate Quiz Question #3: Average Appreciation Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | | Soul Mate Quiz Question #4: Average Quick to Anger Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | | Soul Mate Quiz Question #5: Average Happy Memories Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | How Optimistic are You and Your Partner? Optimists have positive views of the future. They think everything will work out in the end. They are not prone to worry about bad things that haven't happened and probably never will. Soul Mate Quiz Question #1: On a scale of 1 to 10 score yourself and your partner on how optimistic you each are, naturally, about the following categories. (1 would be a total pessimistic view. 10 would be Pollyanna, always confident that things will work out fine.) | You | Your partner | | 1. When facing a test of any kind, how confident are you that you can handle it? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 2. When your favorite team is competing, how sure are you that your team will win? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 3. If you have children, how sure are you that they will thrive and prosper? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 4. How much confidence do you have that your marriage will be happy and last? | 1 2 3 4 5
6 7 8 9 10 | 1 2 3 4 5
6 7 8 9 10 | | 5. How sure are you that you'll achieve your goals in life? | 1 2 3 4 5
6 7 8 9 10 | 1 2 3 4 5
6 7 8 9 10 | | 6. How resilient are you when something bad happens to you (do you bounce right back, or do you worry that you'll never recover)? | 1 2 3 4 5
6 7 8 9 10 | 1 2 3 4 5
6 7 8 9 10 | | Add up each of your scores. Your soul mate quiz optimism scores are: | _______ | _______ | | Divide each of the scores by six. Your average score is: | /6____ | /6____ | | Add both scores together then divide by two. Your composite score is: | _______ | /2 ____ | The Soul Mate Quiz section on positivity: How Positive are You and Your Partner? Positive people seem to always find something good about anything, or anyone. Negative people seem to always find the flaws, and find some wrong with almost everything or anyone. Soul Mate Quiz Question #2 On a scale of 1 to 10 score yourself and your partner on how positive or negative you each tend to be, in a variety of situations. (1 would be a totally negative view. 10 would be the most positive.) | You | Your partner | | 1. You watch a movie. Would you be more likely to talk about what was good about it, or what was not so good? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 2. You meet a new person. Would you be more likely to notice the things that are good about that person, or the defects? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 3. You have meal in a restaurant. Would you more likely to notice the things that were good about the experience, or what was not so good about the experience? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 4. How satisfying, pleasant and fulfilling do you find your job or your work? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 5. How much control do you feel you have over your life? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | Add up each of your scores. Your positivity scores are: | _______ | _______ | | Divide each of the scores by 5. Your average score is: | /5____ | /5____ | | Add both scores together then divide by two. Your composite score is: | _______ | /2 ____ | How Appreciative Are You and Your Partner? Appreciative people appreciate other people for what those people add to their lives. Not only do they feel appreciative, but they freely express their appreciation to those people. Soul Mate Quiz Question # 3 On a scale of 1 to 10 score yourself and your partner on how often you feel appreciative of something that someone did for you, or how someone helped you. A score of 1 would indicate that you never feel appreciative of others, and never express that appreciation. A score of 10 would indicate that you frequently feel appreciative of the efforts, gifts, or traits of others, and you almost always say something to express your appreciation. There are two parts to each question. You should have 2 scores for each question for you, and 2 scores for each question for your partner. | You | Your partner | 1. A teacher of yours inspired you when you were young, and made a big difference in your life. How much do you appreciate that teacher now? How likely would you be, if you met that teacher at a reunion to express your appreciation? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | 2. A coworker made you feel very welcome when you got a job, and taught you to do the job well. How likely would you be to feel appreciative of the coworker's support? How likely would you be to express that appreciation? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | 3. How appreciative do you feel about what your parents, siblings, and other family members have done for you? How clearly have you expressed to those people how much you appreciate what they have done? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | 4. How appreciative do you feel for the love and many nice things that your partner has brought you? How clearly have you expressed that appreciation? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | 5. A stranger goes out of his way to open a door for you when your arms are full. Score how appreciative you would be. How likely would you be to express your appreciation? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | Add up each of your scores. Your appreciation scores are: | _______ | _______ | | Divide each of the scores by 10. Your average score is: | /10____ | /10____ | | Add both scores together then divide by two. Your composite score for being appreciative is: | _______ | /2 ____ | How Quick To Anger Are You and Your Partner? Some people are very slow to anger, and some people are explosive and quick to anger. Some people hardly ever get angry. Others are angry a lot, and about a lot things. Soul Mate Quiz Question # 4 On a scale of 1 to 10 score yourself and your partner on how explosive and quick to anger you are. Score 1 if you are explosive and quick to anger. Give yourself a 10 if almost nothing ever makes you angry, and you are very slow to anger. | You | Your partner | | Score you and your partner about how quick to anger you are: | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | Add both scores together then divide by two. Your composite score is: | _______ | /2 _____ | How Happy Are Your Memories? We all have memories. We all have had good things happen to us, and bad things. The Soul Mate Quiz questions relate to different times and stages in your life. Soul Mate Quiz Question # 5 On a scale of 1 to 10: For any given times or stages or events, if your memories are almost all unhappy, even miserable, give yourself a 1. If your memories are almost all happy, give yourself a 10. If you have equal amounts of both happy and unhappy memories, score a 5. | You | Your partner | | 1. Remember your pre-school years, How happy were your memories from that time? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 2. Recall your years from kindergarten through 6th grade. How happy were your memories of that time?? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 3. Recall your years from 7th grade through the end of your high school. How happy were your memories? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 4. Recall your memories from your first job, or first several. How happy are those memories? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | 5. Recall the relationships you've had prior to your present one. How happy are those memories? | 1 2 3 4 5
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6 7 8 9 10 | | Add up each of your scores. Your positivity scores are: | _______ | _______ | | Divide each of the scores by 5. Your average score is: | /5____ | /5____ | | Add both scores together then divide by two. Your composite score is: | _______ | /2 ____ |
Final Scores | Question: | Mine | Partner's | Composite | | Question #1: Average Optimism Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | | Question #2: Average Positivity Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | | Question #3: Average Appreciation Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | | Question #4: Average Quick to Anger Score | _____ | _____ | _____ | | Question #5: Average Happy Memories Score | _____ | _____ | _____ |
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