People laugh at the idea you can have a happy marriage that lasts

You can laugh too, as you learn to create a happy marriage that lasts. Laughing helps.

People laugh because while marriage is a wonderful and serious thing, but it's also pretty ridiculous. To take a man and a woman, with all their differences, and bond them together full time for a long time, and expect smooth sailing is pretty ridiculous.

To make it work, you need to relax, be imperfect and laugh a lot.

Why Marry? The genes make you do It.

There are 50 different answers to the question, "Why Marry?" Every theorist has a different reason. The fact is, we don't exactly know why we marry. We just know that with our DNA, our genes and our hormones, we humans — like many other species — are driven to pair-bond ... (find a mate). Culturally, we formalize our pairing with marriage (often but not always).

Men and Women are a total misfit

Surely, you've heard that "Men are From Mars and Women are from Venus." John Gray who created the metaphor has book after book about how different men are from women. Gray says it's like two different alien species coming together in a marriage.

When women talk together, they 'know' how men are, and they roll their eyes. and say "Just like a man."

When men talk together, they 'know' how women are, and they roll their eyes, and say "just like a woman."

Without a sense of humor, a relaxed attitude, and a willingness to be imperfect, it would be very hard to create a happy marriage that lasts.

Marriage is actually very good for us!

All of the studies show that when we are married we are healthier, we are happier, we are wealthier, we give our children two parents, and we have larger combined families to create a wider support base.

If you take things too seriously, marriage can sometimes drive you a little crazy, but it is very, very good for us.

So, if we are driven to marry, and it's really very good for us to be married, just imagine how much better it would be if we could make the marriage happy, loving and lasting.

Nobody can do marriage perfectly

You must understand this: no one can do marriage perfectly. There is no point in trying to be a perfect spouse. You'll just get an ulcer or IBS or something else from trying to do the impossible.

It is much wiser to relax, accept your imperfections, and laugh as often as you can.

Now, with that understood, we'll tell you that there are happy marriages, and we'll give you the formula that will help you create one for you and your partner.

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