Happy Marriage Tips:
Become hyper-aware of bad feelings

You can use the coping questions anytime you have a bad feeling about anything.

In Happy Marriage Tips, we are particularly concerned with any bad feelings you have toward your partner.

Some people, unfortunately, experience lots of bad feelings about people, events, and things. If that's your situation, you might just start learning to cope with marriage problems and bad feelings about your partner. Let's explore the first question in detail.

Once you've made the coping questions automatic, you'll want to practice coping with all the bad feelings you experience. Who knows? You might even become a happy, happy person.

Happy marriage tips: Immediately ask, "What's Happening?"

The question "What's Happening?" works like magic. Instantly, you're moved away from the emotional part of your mind (and brain) to the rational, reasoning part.

The question itself focuses your attention on you, your thoughts, and the feelings your thoughts are producing.

Many people report that they feel an instant clarity of thought, and relief from the bad feeling that prompted the question.

Happy marriage tips: Become Aware Of What Is Happening

The answer to the question "What's Happening?" is always some sort of bad feeling you're having.

Some possible answers: "I'm feeling really angry toward my partner." or, "I'm feeling disappointed in my partner." or "I'm feeling really frustrated by my partner."

You'll often find a pattern to your answers. If you do, pay attention. For example, you might be constantly feeling angry, or sad, or disappointed, or unloved, or lonely, or resentful toward your partner.

If you keep having the same bad feeling over and over, many experts call this, your “favorite miserable feeling” (favorite, because you have it a lot).

What Were You Thinking?

The happy marriage tips help you ask "What's happening?" in order to identify the feeling you're getting and the thoughts you were having when you got the bad feeling.

When you can verbalize the bad feeling you're having and the thoughts you were thinking, you're ready for the second question: "How am I creating the bad feeling I'm feeling?"

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