Happy Marriage Tips:
Know What You Want

Third Coping Question: Is this what I want?

This Happy Marriage Tips coping question causes you to consider what you want for your life. Use it to see if the feeling you're creating is really what you want for your life.

Usually, the answer to this question is "No. I don't want a life filled with bad feelings."

When that happens, you're aware that the bad feeling you're feeling toward your partner is at odds with your life goals.

You know that your thoughts create your feelings, so immediately you see that it is you and your thoughts — not your partner — who is responsible for your bad feelings.

So, you're responsible for your bad feelings. So what?

Coping question number three helps you realize that you can resolve the bad feeling yourself. But, how?

Coping Question number three leads to the happy marriage tips final coping question: "How can I move Closer to what I want for my life?"

What do you want for your life?

Maybe you're one of those lucky people who has carefully chosen what you want for your life.

More than likely, you're one of the vast majority that has never taken the time or discipline it takes to clarify what you want to achieve in your life, and how you want to live it.

We suggest — when you get some time — that you examine your life, set some goals, and choose what you want for your life.

For our purposes, however, we know one thing that you would like for your life. We know you want a happy marriage that lasts.

Happy Marriage Tips: Bad feelings don't create a happy marriage that lasts

Happy Marriages that last are built on good feelings toward your partner and your marriage.

Bad feelings associated with your partner are something you don't want for your life.

Until you identify everything you want for your life, we'll go forward with that. You want a happy marriage that lasts a lifetime.

Happy Marriage Tips: Never lose sight of your goal to have a happy marriage that lasts

Notice that Coping Question number three reminds you — every time you ask it — that one of the high priorities in your life is to have a happy marriage that lasts.

You can't let it slip away like a diet gone bad, or a gym membership gone unused.

Your goal is always with you: every time you have a bad feeling and every time you have thoughts that put your happiness or your marriage at risk.

You are reminded of it every time you ask the coping question number three: "Is This What I Want For My Life?"

The next article is "Happy Marriage Tips: Use Coping Question number four to choose how you can move closer to what you do want for your life.

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