Cope with Marriage Problems to Have a
Happy Marriage that Lasts

Cope with marriage problems to minimize damage

To make your love grow after marriage, you need to be able to cope with marriage problems. You need a strategy that minimizes the damage done by those things that decrease the love. Coping is the answer. Immediately after feelings bad feelings toward your partner or your marriage, we suggest you ask yourself four easy questions, and make one of four wise choices. If you learn and practice these simple coping skills, you can protect your love from erosion by any of the marriage problems listed above. Coping with marriage problems

Cope with marriage problems by first asking: "What's happening?"

The magic formula to effectively cope with marriage problems takes you through four questions and then making one of four choices.

The first question, any time you have a bad feeling, is: What's Happening?

Then, cope with your bad feelings by asking, "How did I create this feeling?"

Scientists tell us that we create our feelings by our thoughts. Coping question number two causes you to ask yourself what thoughts you're having that create this bad feeling toward your partner.

You don't need to know the answer to this question to cope with marriage problems. Experts use this question to help individuals who get stuck in their thinking. You can learn how to answer it if you want. This is fully explained in a subsequent article: How Did I Create This Feeling?

Then, cope with bad feelings by asking: "Is this what I want?"

You've created some kind of bad feeling that's associated with your partner. It's important to ask "Is this feeling what I want for my life?"

This question keeps you grounded and in touch with what you want for your life. Click on: Is This What I Want?

Next, cope with marriage problems by asking: "What Can I Do?"

The full question is "What can I do to move closer to what I want for my life?"

This question leads to four possible wise choices (Act, Ask, Accept, Forgive). You'll go through the choices top to bottom to see which will move you closer to what you want.

We don't know what else you want for your life, but we would guess you "Want a Happy Marriage That Lasts." To see the four wise choices, click on: What Can I Do?

The Payoff If You Cope With Marriage Problems Quickly And Effectively

The payoff from the coping process is huge. Few people appreciate the enormous value of coping well.

The process is simple to learn. The effects are immediate. The results are important. You'd think every school would teach this incredibly simple process. Maybe someday they will. In the meantime, we'll do it.

To discover the amazing payoffs you get if you effectively cope with marriage problems, click on: Cope With Marriage Problems Payoff

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